Is it ever the right thing to quit your goal? You see, quitting is not an easy thing to do. You may have spent a lot of time and energy into reaching your goal, and you may be wondering: "Is it really worth it to quit at this stage?" Or you might be thinking: "Am I quitting too soon? Maybe I should push a little bit harder!" and those are valid questions. But you see, quitting is sometimes the right thing to do because physically, emotionally and mentally speaking, that's the right thing to do.
Of course in a separate video, I talked about the fact that if you are quitting because you think you don't have the ability, that's the wrong reason to do it. Don't quit because you think:” I don't have the ability!” because you're probably wrong. Think of a role model who has made success happen for them in a similar situation to yours, and be honest with yourself. Is it about the ability or is it about planning, goal-setting, execution and...
Your life story can actually help you build a stronger personal brand and increase your income. That's because your life story can actually show you what niche and specialty you should be focusing on in the market.
Let me give you an example. A while back I was working with a life coach who was not happy with the pace of her business growth. When we looked at her situation, we found out that, obviously, she was a generalist, and she was trying to help everybody, which is rarely successful. She actually needed to be focusing on a niche and specialty in the market. But the problem was she didn't know exactly what niche or specialty she should be focusing on.
One item that I always use to help my clients find their niche and specialty is their life story. When we explored her life story, we found out a lot! For example, we found out that when she was living with her ex, she was the kind of person who always had to say yes. She didn't know how to express herself. She didn't know how to...
What's the best way to stay out of a bad habit?
According to positive psychology, when you quit a bad habit, the best way to stay out of it is to not expose yourself to temptations, and actually stop before you start.
In a study that was done in a group of smokers, it was shown that those smokers who actually didn't expose themselves to temptation, for example, didn't go out with their smoker friends or didn't go to environments that were tempting like bars, those people were actually more successful in staying out of a bad habit. And if you think about it, it's just a law of physics! Think about snow: when it's in place it's easy to control, but when it starts moving and rolling into a ball of snow then it becomes difficult to control, and the more it has been moving, the more difficult it becomes to control it.
So, next time, if you're trying to lose weight, next time somebody offers you a bag of chips refuse it altogether and stop before you start!...
Books can be tremendous assets to build your brand and grow your business. But don't ever think that writing books is reserved for coaches, consultants, speakers, or trainers! No! Anybody who has expert knowledge, wisdom or expertise and they want to grow their brand and their business, can benefit from writing a book.
Let me give you an example. Most recently, we published this book for a few of our clients. This is a multi-authored book “Challenge to Triumph” and it features the success story of five business people. Now, one of them is a dentist. How can a book like this benefit a dentist? In three different ways: It gives them credibility, it creates differentiation, and it opens new doors and possibilities for them.
Let me explain. When this dentist’s patients come to his office, they see copies of this book on the table! This creates credibility and trust. This creates differentiation and it makes him stand out from the other dentists out...
The most important factor that contributes to your success as a coach, consultant, speaker, or author is to be really good at what you do! It's all about being REALLY SKILLED at what you offer!
But when you're first starting out, you may not be that great! You may not own that high-level skill. It doesn't matter! I didn't have that high-level skill when I first started out. Twenty-something years ago when I wrote my very first book with the help of my brother, It was a flop! We failed badly and we lost a lot of money. But we had this vision, we wanted to be successful in this field; and we persevered. We got better and better and better, and after six years we made it, and the book became a best-seller and it's been history ever since. I've sold more than three million copies of my different books worldwide, and I've written multiple best-selling books international best-sellers ever since, and not only that, I'm actually helping my clients write and...
Is it advisable to pursue two big goals at the same time? Positive psychology tells us that that's calling for trouble! So, you had better tackle one big problem or task first, and then move on to the next big problem or task the reason being that every one of us human beings has a certain amount of self-control. It can be boosted; it can be enhanced; but it's not infinite. So, if you divide your limited quantity of self-control among different tasks and different goals then you'll probably fail at all of them.
Yes, there are exceptions. There are people like Elon Musk who are pursuing various global enterprises at the same time. But positive psychology research has shown that people who pursue to lose weight and quit smoking at the same time, fail at both enterprises.
So, it's always advisable to not pursue two big goals at the same time but instead tackle one at a time.
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Sometimes we need to enhance our performance, concentration, and self-control in just a few minutes. How can we do that?
According to the research done in the field of positive psychology, especially those done by Dr. Halvorsen, it has been shown that three things can boost our self-control in just a few minutes.
1- Number one is called contagion. By that I mean being around ambitious people, and just thinking of driven high self-control people can actually help you boost your self-control, and this has been shown very vividly in the research done in positive psychology.
2- Number two: do something that lifts your mood. For example, it has been show that watching comedy videos, writing down your most important values in life, listening to energetic music, any of those and anything that actually lifts your spirits can actually boost your self-control.
3- And number three is consuming glucose. Eating or consuming something that contains glucose can actually...
Writing a book is one of the most effective ways to build your personal brand and become known as the go-to expert in your field. When you tell your audience, "I've written a book or I've been featured in a book in my area of expertise", you instantly become recognized by them as one of the authorities in your field. You instantly get a lot of credibility, and not only that, you are now different from your competitors because you're now a published author, especially if you're a best-selling author who now rises heads and shoulders above the rest. And as somebody who has been an author for 20-something years, I can attest to the fact that nothing, nothing beats books in helping you build your brand, propel your business forward and become more successful as a thought leader.
However, when I tell people that writing books is one of the best investments they can make in their brand or in their business, one of the biggest concerns that they have is: "Shahab, I get that books are...
You may see people like me, coaches, consultants, or subject matter experts who produce seminars and webinars, write books, and create coaching programs who monetize their expertise, and you may wonder: "I can do that! I have certain knowledge, expertise, and story that can help people. I can do that! But am I a great fit?" Who can become a successful speaker, thought leader, influencer, a coach, or a consultant?
In my 20-something years of experience in three different countries, I can tell you that anybody who wants to inspire and teach people to lead better lives can do this can be part of this industry and can be successful in it. It doesn't matter whether you have a doctorate or a university degree or not it
It doesn't matter whether you're 20 years old, or you're entering this field after 30 years of corporate experience. It doesn't matter whether you have the skill set yet or not. What matters though, is whether deep down inside yourself you sense this mission, you sense this...
So you want to build your brand, grow your business and make more impact. You want to join the top one percent in your field. But sometimes, you don't have enough self-control! There are certain things that you should be doing every day, but you simply aren't because the will is not there!
So how can we go about pumping up our self-control? Positive psychology has shown that self-control is pretty much like a muscle. If you put it to good use regularly, you will make it stronger. But if you don't use it, it will become weaker. So basically, it's use it or lose it.
Now how do you go about strengthening your self-control? Psychologists such as Mark Muraven have done a lot of studies on this topic. Mark, in one of his studies, noticed that when people go to the gym regularly and under supervision, and they do workouts with their personal trainers after a couple of weeks, they not only get more self-control in that area, but they will improve their performance in other areas of their...
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